Couples and Marriage Counseling in Fresno
You are having difficulties in your relationship and not sure where to turn.
You are tired of overlooking problems and realize that nothing ever gets solved.
This has bred resentment, anger, and a detachment.
Either a current relationship is challenging, you have trouble starting relationships or you may struggle maintaining healthy relationships due to past trauma. Also, you may have had difficult past relationships which causes a fear to begin new ones. When relationships are challenging, a person may question one’s abilities, values and self.
You May Find Yourself:
Allowing others to dictate your mood
Not being able to say "NO"
Not have a clear understanding of what a healthy relationship looks like
Admitting wrong doing when you have done nothing wrong
Sacrifice personal ethics to save a relationship
Having trust issues related to infidelity
You Want to Learn:
How to better control your moods around others
Be able to say “NO” with authority and without guilt
How to establish and maintain a healthy relationship
Not cave to an argument just to resolve it on the surface
Stand firm on your beliefs
Resolve issues of trust
I Can Help You Improve Your Relationship
Marriage/Romantic Relationship Therapy
Romantic relationships typically struggle at some point during its course. This could be related to infidelity, division, parenting, stress or through a lack of effort. Usually therapy is sought after long-term difficulty and often at the brink of separation. Couples therapy is most effective when each participant can be vulnerable, manage resentment and try new things.
Feeling Guilt in a Relationship
Many relationships are built on guilt and fear. This is a cycle that keeps one party in a control position and the other feeling the need to always consider the other person first in order to maintain this balance. However, this is not a relationship of equality and likely both parties are unhappy. Often times a relationship built on this foundation leads to resentment and unfulfillment as the person in control does so out of fear of vulnerability and is placed in a parental like role. As a result, the other person easily slips into the child role being the one who feels guilt and inferiority. In therapy, the couple will face their fears by the person in the child role asserting more power and the person in the parental role practicing vulnerability and trust of the other.
I can help you understand the foundation of how you learned to relate to others. This is often created in young childhood where parents were the models of relationship building. If this was done in a haphazard or unloving manner then being able to develop relationships in a healthy manner become very challenging as this was not your training. We will help you understand all the ways in which your relational understanding stems and how to improve this in a way where you are empowered and equal.
Challenging relationships and setting boundaries can be really scary especially if this speaks against your personal learning. However, be assured that all changes made in life will fit with you personally, culturally and will occur over time.